I am 17. And my boyfriend is 18
I do so much for my boyfriend and he is really nasty bk to me.
So many ppl no wot he is lyk an keep telin me he is bad. His mates from his old high school hav added me on f.book an hav tld me 2 stay away an they keep sayin how nyc i am an how lucky he is 2 b wiv me, but then he is horrible. an so many ppl hav mentioned about his temper which i hav now realised is bad…
On various occasions I hav went up 2 Ben, (so scared) an hav tld him how i feel. i hav bin ded nyc about it telling him sum things he says an duz makes me feel upset. and he has threatened 2 hurt me an as he says ’smash my face in’ he has also tld me hes cumin 2 myn the next day… then sed… ‘oh u wait until tomorrow’ he has sed hes beat up his mum an his sister an he is not scared 2 hurt me. He is really worrying me. Everything he does. He never seems to want to spk 2 me. My mate tld me he is flirting to other girls on msn, thats y he duznt spk 2 me on it. an one nyt i asked him 2 go on webcam, he went on it 2 my best mate insted. He has finished me twice because i hav tld him how i feel and he has got angry about it.
He is really getting me down :’(
And i think an dmy mates think he is just using me for the sex… We have neevr watched a full DVD together. He gets wot he wants. If i say no to it, he wil just do it and make sure he gets it. The only tym he duz actually spk 2 me is wen he is talking bout taking me upstairs or talking about sex.
Twice now. I ahve found porn magazines in his room, when the 1st tym he sed he wil get rid of it.. Y wud he have these if he has a girlfriend he supposingly loves. Then he tries covering it up by saying porn is for old dirty perverts, but actually he has them in his room. Then the 2nd tym i found one he had a go at me saying he tried to hide it and he didnt wan tme to see it!!!…So he was going to hide it from me…in which relationship to people keep secrets? And then he used the excuse y he has them… apparantly so he can find new things and positions we can do… once again 4 sex!
If i am ever hurting while we r doing it, he doesnt care at all. He will carry on or sumtyms, do it harder. He has asked me a few tyms coz u can tel from my face it hurts. he has asked me if it duz hurt an i say yes, so he duz it even harder.
I can’t tel him how i feel or anything becoz i no i wil get shouted at, threatened and then once again, finished.
He sometimes tries to be ncie to me. But he duz go Over the top. He tells me he wants a baby with me! :O… I wud not hava baby with sumbody that never has the tym 2 c me… never mind me and a baby. and also neevr wiv sum1 that has anger problems an threatens to hurt me… I am not that irresponsible… especially towards a child.
He took me to asda on tuesday 2 luk at baby clothes! And was saying to me that everybody must think we have a kid! I was thinking no way!
Ben made me wait 2 hours and 50 minuites waiting for him and he didnt even turn up. He chooses his friends over me, then expects me 2 have a child with him. He turned up at my house 5 hours late.
He has never sed i luk nice in any clothes I wear and i try my best to look nice for him. I shop in expensive an d trendy shops. All the new clothes i get, the clothes on show in the windows and he tells me Ia m unfashionable. And wil see ppl and tel me i should dress like them.
Like everybody says, he treats me horribly and always makes me go to sleep crying and really upset..
…But i sumhow love him. So i just do not know wot to do.
U shouldnt stay wit sum1 who constantly upsets u like that. The way he treats u isnt love. U can try 2 change sum1 all u want but in the end it all comes down 2 them having to decide for themselves. U can do better. Life is 2 short 2 spend it unhappy. Leave him and if he wants 2 keep threatening u should get a restraining order. And if u stay (which i really dont recommend)….once he hits u once its easier 2 do it again. Abusive relationships arent healthy. Even if he isnt physically abusing u he’s abusing u emotionally. If he really loved u he wouldnt be treating u like the dirt at the bottom of his shoe.
I would dump him…and see if he really does care about you…!
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Comment by Kiki 1995:) — July 13, 2010 @ 9:52 pm
Its because he’s desperate and really doesn’t want to be with you but can’t find any other girls at the moment.
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Comment by Mr. Z — July 13, 2010 @ 10:05 pm
You dont seem like your right for him. If someone acts like that then they are not going to change over night. If he is right for you then he will make you feel better about yourself, not worse. Also, you might want to find someone your age that way you can relate better with him.
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Comment by Sabrina — July 13, 2010 @ 10:50 pm
by all means stay with this peach of a guy… sounds like a real prize that any girl would love to be around!!
i can completely understand why you are with him, he treats you so well and he is so loving and kind!!!
what a guy!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Comment by KRIS — July 13, 2010 @ 11:14 pm
dump him and find someone that makes you happy, you’ve got plenty of time to do it
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Comment by jamprl — July 13, 2010 @ 11:31 pm
OMG u know thats kinda dangerous
dont tlk to him if he doesnt want to talk to u and maybe it’ll fade away because he really seems dangerous.
and a baby ??? come on you r 17 some people nevr had their 1st kiss at 17.
it does seem like he’s using u and i think u know he is
just please try to forget him
well im not telling u what to do . thats what i would do.
im sure u could get a better guy.
im so angry ……….. a little at u for putting up wid that and mostly AT HIM and i dont know u
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Comment by crystal — July 14, 2010 @ 12:13 am
U shouldnt stay wit sum1 who constantly upsets u like that. The way he treats u isnt love. U can try 2 change sum1 all u want but in the end it all comes down 2 them having to decide for themselves. U can do better. Life is 2 short 2 spend it unhappy. Leave him and if he wants 2 keep threatening u should get a restraining order. And if u stay (which i really dont recommend)….once he hits u once its easier 2 do it again. Abusive relationships arent healthy. Even if he isnt physically abusing u he’s abusing u emotionally. If he really loved u he wouldnt be treating u like the dirt at the bottom of his shoe.
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Comment by Goldilocks — July 14, 2010 @ 12:41 am
What I’m about to tell you, you probably don’t want to hear. It’s time for you to grow up more than you have already. It’s going to be tough, but if you don’t resolve this the right way, you’ll make the same mistakes over and over again in an effort to resolve it. This boy should not be in ANY relationship. He’s immature and it sounds like he hates women. He does not want you more than he wants to control you. If you did everything the way he wanted, he’d still find fault with you. He needs to experience consequences for his actions. You may actually love him or you may just think that you do. You may like the challenge of being his girlfriend and hoping he’ll turn around. You may love the tender moments you get and feel they are so valuable and special because they only occur sometimes. This is part of his control. You may feel as though somehow you have failed if you break up with him, but that’s exactly what you need to do. Talk to your school counselor, your parents, friends and make a plan to break up. Once you’ve broken up, refuse to take him back. I want you to make this the very last time you allow yourself to be treated this way. You don’t want to be 30 years old and still whining about some jerk who doesn’t want to behave. This boy is disrespectful, angry, hurtful, aloof, violent, arrogant and is a user and a cheater. What the heck are you thinking? Of course you’re so much more than this and isn’t it confusing to know that you’re too good for him but he won’t treat you well? Even if you are responsible enough to not want a baby with him, babies most often come along unplanned. There is nothing that you’re going to be able to say or do that will make this boy change right now. People can change, and they do, but over time. Don’t waste your time. He should do this on his own doggone time. He’s wired differently than other boys. He already sees you a certain way and making yourself smaller before him- telling him you don’t like how he’s treating you over and over only makes it worse. He obviously wants a victim and you’re GIVING HIM ONE. Grow up. Stand up and walk out.
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Comment by Lovey — July 14, 2010 @ 1:09 am