Is anyone else sick of looking ‘mumsy’? I went to a mother and baby group for the first time today and I seemed to be the only one who looked all mumsy and not very flattering at all. All the other mums looked amazing, very trendy clothes on, make-up and hair perfect and without any extra flab anywhere. Whereas I seem to look run down, totally unglamorous and very VERY mumsy! Am I the only one or does anyone else feel like this?

You are not alone!

I have the extra skin..that is what I call it! And the only time I put on makeup and jeans is for work and then I dont’ feel like i used to…I feel "eh" or just ok.

I am 17. And my boyfriend is 18

I do so much for my boyfriend and he is really nasty bk to me.
So many ppl no wot he is lyk an keep telin me he is bad. His mates from his old high school hav added me on f.book an hav tld me 2 stay away an they keep sayin how nyc i am an how lucky he is 2 b wiv me, but then he is horrible. an so many ppl hav mentioned about his temper which i hav now realised is bad…

On various occasions I hav went up 2 Ben, (so scared) an hav tld him how i feel. i hav bin ded nyc about it telling him sum things he says an duz makes me feel upset. and he has threatened 2 hurt me an as he says ’smash my face in’ he has also tld me hes cumin 2 myn the next day… then sed… ‘oh u wait until tomorrow’ he has sed hes beat up his mum an his sister an he is not scared 2 hurt me. He is really worrying me. Everything he does. He never seems to want to spk 2 me. My mate tld me he is flirting to other girls on msn, thats y he duznt spk 2 me on it. an one nyt i asked him 2 go on webcam, he went on it 2 my best mate insted. He has finished me twice because i hav tld him how i feel and he has got angry about it.

He is really getting me down :’(

And i think an dmy mates think he is just using me for the sex… We have neevr watched a full DVD together. He gets wot he wants. If i say no to it, he wil just do it and make sure he gets it. The only tym he duz actually spk 2 me is wen he is talking bout taking me upstairs or talking about sex.
Twice now. I ahve found porn magazines in his room, when the 1st tym he sed he wil get rid of it.. Y wud he have these if he has a girlfriend he supposingly loves. Then he tries covering it up by saying porn is for old dirty perverts, but actually he has them in his room. Then the 2nd tym i found one he had a go at me saying he tried to hide it and he didnt wan tme to see it!!!…So he was going to hide it from me…in which relationship to people keep secrets? And then he used the excuse y he has them… apparantly so he can find new things and positions we can do… once again 4 sex!
If i am ever hurting while we r doing it, he doesnt care at all. He will carry on or sumtyms, do it harder. He has asked me a few tyms coz u can tel from my face it hurts. he has asked me if it duz hurt an i say yes, so he duz it even harder.

I can’t tel him how i feel or anything becoz i no i wil get shouted at, threatened and then once again, finished.

He sometimes tries to be ncie to me. But he duz go Over the top. He tells me he wants a baby with me! :O… I wud not hava baby with sumbody that never has the tym 2 c me… never mind me and a baby. and also neevr wiv sum1 that has anger problems an threatens to hurt me… I am not that irresponsible… especially towards a child.
He took me to asda on tuesday 2 luk at baby clothes! And was saying to me that everybody must think we have a kid! I was thinking no way!

Ben made me wait 2 hours and 50 minuites waiting for him and he didnt even turn up. He chooses his friends over me, then expects me 2 have a child with him. He turned up at my house 5 hours late.

He has never sed i luk nice in any clothes I wear and i try my best to look nice for him. I shop in expensive an d trendy shops. All the new clothes i get, the clothes on show in the windows and he tells me Ia m unfashionable. And wil see ppl and tel me i should dress like them.
Like everybody says, he treats me horribly and always makes me go to sleep crying and really upset..

…But i sumhow love him. So i just do not know wot to do.

U shouldnt stay wit sum1 who constantly upsets u like that. The way he treats u isnt love. U can try 2 change sum1 all u want but in the end it all comes down 2 them having to decide for themselves. U can do better. Life is 2 short 2 spend it unhappy. Leave him and if he wants 2 keep threatening u should get a restraining order. And if u stay (which i really dont recommend)….once he hits u once its easier 2 do it again. Abusive relationships arent healthy. Even if he isnt physically abusing u he’s abusing u emotionally. If he really loved u he wouldnt be treating u like the dirt at the bottom of his shoe.

mines baby phat’ i love urban/trendy clothes

BABY PHAT IS THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!!

My daughter is 9 years old, 55 inches tall and weighs 91 pounds, so she is just barely overweight. For a couple of years, I’ve been buying her clothes a couple of sizes too big, other than jeans, which I have to buy plus sizes so they aren’t miles too long! Anyway, I just took her to The Children’s Place to shop for back-to-school clothes and I left there feeling sick (without betraying that to her, of course!) because the clothes just do NOT fit her properly. She needs a size 12 or 14 to fit around her belly, but the clothes just don’t look right. I don’t want her to get a complex about her weight, but I want her clothes to fit right. Where should I shop for plus size clothes? I know Target has plus size jeans, but where can I find other items that are made for larger girls? The baby doll styles I keep finding at trendy stores just do nothing for her body type, and dresses look like feed sacks by the time I get them large enough for her. Any cool store or website suggestions?

You should try Fashion Bug and Cato, they both have cute, trendy clothes for really good bargains.

Good luck, and yeah for you not letting her let this worry her!

She was born with all that money, couldn’t she use it to fly helicopters or save starving babies in Africa.

And how/why are wannabee Paris Hiltons made? With their trendy clothes and careless attitude. Is it the tough economy that influences women to "look rich" and not have a strong self? Is the world just too hard to have a self image. Your thoughs……
@waffle: I’m just saying with all that time and money, wouldn’t you at least try to do amazing things with it?

Um, sorry, there are more filthy-rich men than there are women in this world, and they spend on their money on equally useless sh*t like yachts and 200-room houses.
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I’m sorry, LOL @ people actually making pathetic attempts to blame the timeless frivolity of the wealthy on FEMINISM. LOLOLOL.

If you really have trouble figuring how capitalism results in an ever-increasing wealth gap where soon the super-rich 1% will be living in gated communities while the rest of us run around in ghettos with no government social-safety nets to fall back on, try Naomi Klein’s _The Shock Doctrine_.