okay so I’m barely 6 weeks pregnant and I’m going really baby crazy buying alot of neutral baby clothes, blankets, and accessories. I had been wanting a baby for so long and I’m totally happy for it. The thing is my husband tells me "oh I think its to early for you to be buying anything" and now I’m embarrassed to buy or look at the baby section infront of him when we go to the store. What should I do?
we live together so its not like I could hide all the clothes.
Awww you know what its completely normal. My hubby was the same way, it was like until he seen the ultrasound and a growing belly it was real to him yet. Ever heard you become a mommy the day you find out your pregnant, a dad becomes a daddy when the baby arrives….in my own experiance this has rang true. While i am constantly searching baby stuff and reading reviews online he looking up motorcycles and truck parts lol. Im sure hes excited but has a hard way of showing it so early, its probably still sinking in for him. Buy a few little things right now and then just hold off until the doc appt whne he hears the heart beat or sees and u/s. You could always talk to him about this too, but try to understand him too hes a man and we are woman. CONGRATS!
Embarrassed to buy baby clothes in front of husband?
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March 5th, 2010 at 2:00 am
Buy clothes when he’s not around?
Honestly, though, I’m with him – It does seem a bit early to be buying clothes, but to each is own.
Congrats.
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March 5th, 2010 at 2:10 am
my partner is the same but i just buy them anyway. dont be embarrassed just do what you feel is right and enjoy. i think your hubby is just being cautious
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March 5th, 2010 at 2:54 am
Shop without him?
I didnt do any shopping til I was out of the "danger" zone myself.
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March 5th, 2010 at 3:11 am
Leave him at home when you want to go out and have fun…
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March 5th, 2010 at 3:19 am
honestly, I think it may be a little early!
What if something happens and you miscarry or something. (not to scare you but it does happen!)
and honestly, if you have a baby shower you’ll get tons of stuff!
Plus neutral colors aren’t fun! I would think it much more fun to wait till my baby is born to go shopping! Unless you know what it is for sure!
Looking is fun, and buying stuff at a great bargain is fine, but i would ease up and relax, you’ll have lots of time to buy stuff later!
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March 5th, 2010 at 3:34 am
i understand your so happy but i also think its to early just because ou never know . i did the same with my first and never came home with the baby. this time im waiting until i have this one with me. good luck
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13 weeks
March 5th, 2010 at 3:51 am
You shouldn’t feel embarrassed just tell him what you tell us, if he’s your husband you guys have to be comfortable with each other, and def now that your going to have a baby. I would just tell him your super excited and you will cool down on the shopping but your not compleatly going to stop!
Theres going to be a baby shower so dont buy too much!
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5 wks
March 5th, 2010 at 4:11 am
my husband was the same way, but mostly because we didn’t have anything set up for a new baby and there was no place to put everything. i didn’t shop until i was much later along, though.
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March 5th, 2010 at 4:33 am
It is a little early to be buying things; you should at least hold out until the second trimester, when the chances of losing the baby have significantly decreased. Some women hold out until they find out the gender, some hold out until they’re 25 weeks. It’s okay to look at stuff, but you should probably hold off on actually making purchases. If you don’t feel like looking at stuff in front of your husband, look at sites like Target and Wal Mart.
edit:: Heh, two thumbs down for being honest, huh?
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March 5th, 2010 at 4:38 am
You shouldn’t be embarrassed but maybe you should stop. I agree with your hubby, it is to early to buy anything.
I don’t want to make you feel bad or don’t want to be negative here, but so many thing can happen in the first trimester. It is just not a good idea to buy anything in the first trimester.
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Wow, a thumbs down for being realistic. okay…….
March 5th, 2010 at 4:53 am
I would continue to browse and look around, but try to abstain from actually purchasing anything else just yet. If you decide to find out what the baby is, you’ll really want to buy stuff then, and it will be hard to justify if you’ve already bought everything in the beginning. If you find something you really LOVE, get it, but otherwise, wait a bit. Remember, you’ll be pregnant for almost a year, so you have plenty of time to pick out things. Congratulations! It’s nice to hear about someone being so excited!
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March 5th, 2010 at 5:23 am
Awww you know what its completely normal. My hubby was the same way, it was like until he seen the ultrasound and a growing belly it was real to him yet. Ever heard you become a mommy the day you find out your pregnant, a dad becomes a daddy when the baby arrives….in my own experiance this has rang true. While i am constantly searching baby stuff and reading reviews online he looking up motorcycles and truck parts lol. Im sure hes excited but has a hard way of showing it so early, its probably still sinking in for him. Buy a few little things right now and then just hold off until the doc appt whne he hears the heart beat or sees and u/s. You could always talk to him about this too, but try to understand him too hes a man and we are woman. CONGRATS!
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March 5th, 2010 at 6:00 am
It’s natural to be excited about your baby and want to buy stuff. I personally would wait a little bit before buying so much stuff because i’m a worry-wart and at 14 weeks, I still haven’t bought anything. It might be hard god-forbid something should happen and you have all those things in the house.
If it embarasses you so much with your husband then shop without him and don’t show him what you buy. I would find that so hard to do because I’m always pointing out stuff in the store to my husband. Good luck!
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March 5th, 2010 at 6:17 am
Not the best time to start sneaking around buying things behind his back, just relax…….you will have plenty of time for shopping once your a little further into your pregnancy and any risks are behind you.
Chill out and enjoy! I’m happy for you!
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March 5th, 2010 at 6:42 am
I don’t think you should feel embarrassed but I agree with him. I personally wouldn’t want my daughter or son wearing all neutral stuff, so I would much rather wait to find out the sex so I could buy cute outfits for their specific gender.
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March 5th, 2010 at 7:06 am
You should really Waite because any thing could happen i hate to say that but it is true and god for bid some thing did happen you have all the things to remind you that you were pregnant just wait a few it will come fast to buy things for your new baby.
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March 5th, 2010 at 7:18 am
I am a mother of three and I didn’t start until I was about 5 months. I agree with your husband because anything could go wrong.(not saying or hoping it will) If it does then u would be very upset because u have brought all those things.Things happen in life that u don’t expect. So my advise is to maybe spoil yourself a little and take it easy. U shouldn’t be embarrassed though this should be a happy time for the both of u. Good luck!!!
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March 5th, 2010 at 7:56 am
My wife has been baby clothes crazy as well. She’s about 6 months pregnanant and I keep telling her to wait until the baby shower to buy any clothes. Of course, if she sees some great deals (and I mean, like less than $5), then she can buy baby clothes anytime. But really I think its best to wait until the sex is known (assuming you don’t want to keep it a secret), and after the baby shower to start buying a lot of baby clothes. Also, your husband should be a little more considerate of you if he gets to be "mean" about buying clothes.
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March 5th, 2010 at 8:20 am
Don’t let anyone rain on your parade…this is an exciting time…if you want to buy something for your little bundle then buy something…if he doesn’t … than he doesn’t have to…but don’t feel embarrassed…tell him how you feel … and if he’s any kind of man he’ll stop saying that and support you…good luck and congrats!
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